When we are growing up
we are taught to give, every Religion teaches us to give, the more we give the
better we are as people. One of two things are perceived though by most
people. Either a person feels and identifies giving as negative so they will
not give anything at all to anyone. The other type of person sees giving as the
right thing to do so they give and give but not to themselves. Unfortunately
neither one is correct. The proper way to be is to have balance. A Person must
give to others but only after the individual knows what they can reasonably
afford to give without depriving or detracting from their own needs. So what is
responsibility? It is one of the most feared concepts of society. We all tend
to run from it as soon as we need it. There is also a big problem with the
perception of what responsibility is. For many people it means doing what their
superiors tell them. For others it's what people were taught growing up. For
some there is no such thing as responsibility.
The true
definition of responsibility is one who has balance between all physical and
spiritual obligations, keeping everything afloat. Many of us make the mistake
of selling ourselves short, cheating ourselves thinking we are being
responsible. We tend to put ourselves last to satisfy the demands put on
us by our superiors. Or we put ourselves first and everything else suffers. We
become selfish; we do this because society says we must keep our job, credit in
order, spouse and friends happy. We must definitely strive for these things;
however there is a proper way to do it without becoming sucked into a
vacuum. One must simply bring their assets to the environment they find
themselves in. If there is no identifiable asset found then you are in the
wrong place.
Remember who you are and why your here. This
does not mean be selfish, it means take care of your obligations in a total
healthy capacity with benefit to all parties involved. Do not cheat one part of
your life to better another. Any healthy transaction between multiple parties
must have a good outcome for all involved. This remedy will help your
marriage, career and social structure. Responsibility creates real and
total happiness. It is up to the individual to have proper balance and not
expect others to regard his/her needs. It is proper however for one to consider
another’s needs. If you do not stand up
for yourself you cannot expect anyone else to stand up on your behalf.
Responsibility therefore begins with honesty to oneself without justification.
By
Mendy Tornek